Ok, so y’all know (if you actually know me that is haha) that I LOVE Meghan Trainor and frequently jam out to her songs on a regular basis. One of my favorites, especially to sing at inappropriate volumes in the shower or at my desk at work, is All About That Bass. Every time I sing this song, the feminist in me cringes when I get to that one line. You know the one I’m talking about:
Yeah, my momma she told me don’t worry about your size
She says, boys they like a little more booty to hold at night
You know I won’t be no stick-figure, silicone Barbie doll,
So, if that’s what’s you’re into
Then go ahead and move along
I’m sorry, what??
A). Let’s pause for a sec and talk about how no one should base their weight on what another person finds attractive. Ever. Base your weight on what you and your physician determine is healthy and happy for you.
B). People of every size are beautiful. The only person anyone should want to hold at night is the person whose soul they find beautiful. If the physical attraction is there, awesome sauce. That’s what we call an added bonus. If someone doesn’t fit your ideals for soul and physical beauty, go find someone who does and STFU.
C.) Skinny can be beautiful too. As a vegan fitness junkie with a high metabolism, it is near impossible for me to gain weight. Yes, I know. Everyone hates me for saying this. I am so tried of being shammed for being skinny; this is just how I am. Guess what? I do calorie count, but it’s because I’m trying to make sure I consume at least 3,200 calories per day so I don’t LOSE weight. Trust me, I eat. I eat a lot actually. We shouldn’t shame the skinny people who are naturally trim just as we shouldn’t shame people who are naturally thicker.
D). The main problem I have with this rhetoric is that it implies you should try to be something you aren’t to please another person, which is highly ironic considering the context is to encourage women to avoid doing just that.
So, will I continue singing this song? Yep. I love the beat, it perfectly fits my voice register, and it makes me laugh. Should we heed the message here? Hell no. You do you boo boo. Be the person you love and fucking brush off what anyone else says. If you’re anything like me, you’re better off loving yourself at night (yes, innuendo intended) than trying to gain or lose weight to better fit in a partner’s arms.